Q&a: How Can I Save the Relationship?
Friday, November 25th, 2011 at
9:45 pm
Question by angelove<3: How can i save the relationship?
Me and my mother fight a lot, about little stuff too. Whenever we are together, it just seems that we cant seem to get along. Me and my dad are ok, but i live with both my parents.
Me and my mother fight a lot, about little stuff too. Whenever we are together, it just seems that we cant seem to get along. Me and my dad are ok, but i live with both my parents.
So my question is how can i fix the hard relationship with my mom?
Best answer:
Answer by Scott L
Sit down with her and tell her that you are tired of fighting all the time. After all, a mother has nothing but the best of intentions for their childs life and should only want what is best. Explain that you need to get over some feelings (you do honey) and that she has to acknowledge that you are no longer a child (she will).
Good luck.
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Either write a letter to her, or say to her (which ever makes you feel more comfortable)….
Mom,
I realize that we have not been getting along so well lately, so I wanted to let you know I love you very much. Maybe if we spend some quality time together, it will help our relationship. Can we go for a walk at your convenience of course? Maybe even have a picnic. Just you and I. What do you think?
bottleline, she is your mum, no one can ever replace her as a biological mother.
Me and my Mother also get into it all the time. There is something about mother and daughter relationships that are just a complicated thing. One day I started being the bigger person then my mother and began to be nice. This really works! If she says something negative blow it off, if you want to go somewhere asks your dad. You know your mother the best you know what she likes to talk about and what ever so run with that and talk to her! I wish you and your mother the best of luck!!
Imagine a chart where you have your personal zone, your sharing zone, and your mom’s own personal zone.
Try to fit the main issues in any of this three zones.
If it’s your mom’s zone, let it go even if you disagree. For example, your mom’s choice of clothes for herself. If the issue falls in your sharing zone, you need to address that issue because it’s affecting you. For example, if you both use the same computer, who uses it and when.
Then, you have your personal zone. If it’s something that falls in your private zone, like your choice of career, stand for your rights.
This method helps a lot to realize that some things don’t affect us, and there’s no need to argue over something that is not really affecting you.
Big battles, small battles.
The second part after letting go is the size of the battle. If it’s something that is going to ruin your life, affect your health badly, ruin you financially, or really bringing some tragedy to your life, definitely, you must fight.
If it’s something that doesn’t really change much your future, let it go even if it’s upsetting. That takes self control, but some of us fight over the little stuff like tigers but don’t confront the real big issues in life.
I know EXACTLY what your feeling, my mom and I get in fights about everything! Everyday we argue about something. My dad and I are fine, but were not really close (I have both of my parents too.) I wrote my mom a note and told her how I felt and that I really loved her no matter what, I also confessed alot of things ive done so she knows I’m not lying about anything. Hope all goes well.